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Avoiding and Curing Sex - Worker Burnout
If you are a sex
worker or are planning to become one remember:
You are
the most important person and you must care
for yourself and your body.
You will
attract a better clientele, and ultimately
make more money, if you are emotionally
strong and clear.
Take
breaks and vacations from your work as a
matter of course.
Spend time
in nature. Many sex businesses are housed in
dark, closed environments, in busy
neighbourhoods in high stress cities. Being
in nature is a perfect balance. I have found
being out in the forest to be my favourite
medicine, but a city park will do. Get some
sun, fresh air, hang out with trees, smell
the flowers, and roll around in the grass,
relax and watch the clouds drift by.
Spend some
time alone, go inside yourself, stay quiet,
do something very relaxing or meditative,
even if it's just for a few minutes.
Languorous, candle lit, aromatic bubble baths
do wonders. Add mineral salts and herbal
essential oils to your bath to help release
toxins and relieve stress. Close your eyes,
relax your mind, take some long, deep breaths
and draw in life force energy to gain psychic
strength. You'll need it.
Be in
touch with your feelings and express them.
Repressed emotions alone can create major
burn out. I remember a few times when I had
bouts of SWBO, bursting into tears with
clients while they were fucking me, and
raging at a few clients, or my bosses, when
didn't really deserve it. Not good for
business! When you are alone, have little
cry's whenever possible (crygasms). Beat or
scream into a pillow (angergasms). You will
attract a better clientele, and ultimately
make more money, if you are emotionally
strong and clear.
Be aware
of what colours you wear and live in during
off hours. Because most of us make the most
money wearing a particular colour (generally
red, black or white) on your off hours try to
wear other colours. Also, if you work in an
environment that's a particular colour, try
to have other colours at home. Almost
everywhere I worked was red, gold and black,
so I made my bedroom royal blue and emerald
green with hot pink accents, and it had a
great equalising effect.
Take good
care of your body. Because our jobs involve
our bodies, it's important to eat well, and
take some extra minerals and vitamins.
Exercise, and get body work. A good massage (massage school) can do wonders for a worn out
whore or stripper. Again, it's best to have a
session from a woman when possible, I know
this is expensive, but if you can afford it
at all, you're worth it. Less costly options
are gardening, jogging, a yoga class,
swimming, or simply long walks.
Get
therapy. Time and again I've seen friends and
colleagues who are burned out feel a lot
better relatively quickly with one therapy
session a week. Be sure you find a therapist
who is sex positive and non-judgmental, or
best of all, one who has been around the
block herself. I strongly suggest a woman. If
you're really financially strapped, call
women's centres for free therapy. Many
problems come from repeating unconscious
negative patterns created from childhood
experiences, learned beliefs about cultural
norms, etc. Therapy puts you in the drivers
seat, as opposed to doing things
unconsciously. You can be sure that sex work
will bring up lots of personal issues about
money, sex, men, sexual orientation, etc.
What's unresolved is what you'll continue to
attract. Sex work can be a great
teacher and healer, especially when coupled
with therapy.
Have a
good social net of peers with whom you can
have sympathetic, loving, supportive
communication. There is absolutely no better
cure than this. Sharing your stories and
feelings with people who've had similar
experiences is absolutely magical. It is a
tremendous help and source of strength for
all of us, especially when stressed.
Do take an
interest in your clients as much as possible,
find out what motivates them and do courses
and learn how better to manage them.
If at all
possible, don't have any sex for a while. Get
your mind (and body) off work. Indulge in
your other interests and hobbies. Take a
class or two. Go to a funny movie. Get a pet.
Do something you've never done before. Go to
a museum or carnival. Hang out with little
kids or old folks. The possibilities are
endless.
Be willing
to make less money. Decide what kinds of
people you want to work with, and be willing
to let those that don't fit the bill go by.
Develop your own style. Don't let the clients
determine the service, but let them know what
you offer. Practice saying NO. Clean out your
little black book. Challenge yourself by
periodically upgrading or expanding your
business. You may in the short run seem to
make less money, but taking care of your
personal needs will give you longevity in the
business and you'll surely come out ahead.
(Escort-enz offers opportunities to focus
and develop your business)
Create
other sources of income. Look into other
business or career opportunities, go to
college or trade school, make an investment,
start a sideline so that you won't feel
financially trapped. Or when you need a break
from sex work, you'll have an alternate job.
Admit that
you are burnt out. Our egos, as well as
incomes, are invested in feeling good about
our work. Often we are scared to acknowledge
burn out, especially to ourselves. Learn to
recognise it, and see it as an opportunity to
make positive changes in your life.
If your
stress is chronic, get the hell out of the
business. Perhaps you're simply not cut out
for it, it's not fulfilling your needs, or
it's time for a change. Sometimes getting out
of sex work can be difficult. You may need to
leave gradually, until you get your
alternative sources of income in place. Or it
might be best to go 'cold turkey' and make
radical changes all at once. If there's a
will, there's always a way. Good luck!
Do Not
offer services you cannot deliver.
Massage School For Sex Workers
Much of
the information on this page is courtesy of
Annie Sprinkle
Practice
Safe Sex
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