What is
Prostitution?
Although the law defines
prostitution as basically sex for money, this rule
doesn't always apply. There are many cases where
people are paid money or "something of
value" in exchange for sexual contact and it is
not prostitution. It seems logical at this point to
list examples of sex for money that is not
prostitution in order to more accurately develop a
set of rules to determine what prostitution is by
examining what it is not.
For example, the
making of a porn movie is not prostitution. But in a
porn movie you have sexual contact and the actors are
paid to have sex in front of a camera. This is
clearly sex for money, but it's not prostitution.
We have all seen
movies involving love making on the screen. Many sex
scenes have even made it to prime time television.
They involve simulated sex. Simulated sex is where
the actors don't have genital penetration. The
visuals are often faked, although in many cases, real
sexual stimulation occurs. Although much of the sex
is simulated sex, often the scene involves the
licking of nipples, grinding of groins, kissing of
the thighs and navels, penises get hard, faces get
red, nipples become erect. These acts are real and
these people are doing it for money. Is this
prostitution? No! Is this sex for money? Yes it is.
But, they're making a movie. Thus it is legal to have
sex for money in the context of making a movie.
A man goes into a
topless bar and sits down next to the stage. He pulls
out a dollar bill, folds it lengthwise and lays it on
the stage. The female dancer sees the money and moves
right in front of him. She shakes her breasts in his
face, spreads her legs, shows him her ass and moves
her hips in a humping motion. She then turns and
kisses him on the forehead and pulls her garter
indicating for him to put the money there. He does,
and she repeats the performance for the next man with
a dollar. Is this prostitution? No. Is it sex for
money? Yes it is. But it's dancing.
A woman is working
for a large company. Her supervisor is a handsome
single man. An opportunity for a promotion opens up.
She indicates to her supervisor that she's willing to
have sex with him if she gets the job. The new job
pays more than her present job. They have known each
other for years and have dated in the past but never
had sex. She has sex with him and she gets the job.
Is it unethical? Yes it is. Is it sex for money? Yes
it is. Is it prostitution? No.
A man and a woman
are dating. They are out shopping and she sees
something she wants. He asks if he buys the item for
her if she'll have sex with him. She agrees. Is that
prostitution? No. Is it sex for money? Yes it is. But
it's in the context of a relationship. It may be a
screwed up relationship, but it's not a crime. We are
Australians and we have the right to have a screwed
up relationship.
A couple is having
sexual problems. Their marriage is in a rut and they
are talking about divorce. The problem is that the
"spark" is gone. Sex just isn't good any
more. That may be a bad reason to divorce, but it
happens. In an attempt to save the relationship, they
go to a sexual counselor. The counselor examines the
couple and determines that they need training in
sexual technique. This training is to be accomplished
by sexual surrogates. The couple is taken to a room
where a staff male and a staff female engage in
sexual intercourse with the couple and train them in
sexual techniques. The staff members are total
strangers and are having sex with the couple for
money. Is this prostitution? No! Is it sex for money?
Yes it is. But it is in the context of therapy. Even
if the sexual surrogates are not licensed or trained
it's not prostitution. It is at best a license
violation.
A smart young man
has an affair with a rich old woman. She is lonely
and she desperately wants sexual contact. He lives
with her and takes care of her needs. She takes care
of his expenses. Both know what's going on. He knows
if he doesn't give her sex that he's gone. She knows
that if she doesn't give him money he's gone.
However, they have lived together for a long time and
are both getting what they want. Is this
prostitution? No. Is it sex for money? Yes it is. is
it prostitution No.
Article submitted
by Heidi Fliess Agency in Sydney.
A language
experts definition of prostitution:
Prostitution is to go against one's own personal
values. So this means that anyone who does what they
intuitively dislike or disagree with is a
prostitute.
